People date for two main reasons- to establish casual relationships or serious relationships. One should select a date who shares personal interests with them. This should be based on one’s inner attributes, likes and dislikes as opposed to one’s outward appearance. It is important to differentiate between casual relationships and serious relationships because the personal attributes a person may look for vary. Casual relationships have no long-term goal in mind. People are just dating to meet their need for love or sex. In a serious relationship, the couple is dating with the goal of living together or getting married in the future.

Casual relationships assist young people in building their relationship skills. When people intend to have casual relationships, the main qualities they may look for are the physical attributes. Teenagers fall into this category most of the time. They tend to select dates based on their looks, as they are not ready for a serious relationship or marriage. On the other hand, people who intend to engage in serious relationships tend to look at a person’s inner qualities such as patience, perseverance, trustworthiness, reaction to social matters and personal reasoning capacity. One of the most important things to consider in such a case is the level of compatibility between two people. This includes psychological, emotional and spiritual compatibility. It is possible to learn to appreciate a person’s looks especially if their inner qualities are compatible to a person of the opposite sex.

Men and women look for different things in a date. Men are visual so they tend to look at one’s outward appearance. Men look to see if the lady looks healthy and fit. They also look at her clothes and sense of style. Men want to be proud to introduce their date and not wish they could stash her under the table should he meet a friend when having dinner. Most men also want a woman with a great sense of humor that will keep the energy between them sizzling. Does she have a fun attitude and is she willing to try new things? In addition to that, men look for a date that is able to carry on an intelligent conversation about different things. One who does not complain about various issues including men, and is available emotionally, not incessantly talking about her ex boyfriend. Confrontational women are also in the “do not date” list. No man wants to be with a woman who wants to argue and fight about everything. Men are interested in a woman who is able to state her opinion without making him feel wrong about his.

Women tend to look for slightly different things from men. Whereas men are more focused on the physical, women tend to look for certain characteristics. Every woman wants a date that is honest, reliable, and intelligent, has a great sense of humor, and is reliable. Additionally, women want a hard worker with good earning power as women have a need for financial security. Lazy men are not at all attractive. Women who are looking for serious relationships want men who share their values and beliefs. If a couple does not have the same vision and life goals, the relationship will not likely survive.

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